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 Concern
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Experiences

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Sam McCuish (UK)
Chapter Five: We are expecting a
baby
The next two weeks were long. We were both
excited and anxious and tried to remain very positive. Our clinic
provides the facility of guided ultrasound during your embryo
transfer and this enabled us to see the embryos being replaced into
my womb. I felt immediately attached to this tiny part of us. I
know that this is not an experience that every woman who is going
through fertility treatment of this nature is comfortable with, as
if the outcome is negative, they may find it even more difficult to
come to terms with. I, however, took the positives from it and
sincerely think that it contributed towards my positive frame of
mind. We talked about pregnancy, babies, what it would mean, how
our lives would change, and we even talked of baby names. We
believed we would be parents one day, if not this time then it
would happen for us eventually.
We discussed doing a pregnancy test before returning to the clinic
on our outcome day, and we eventually agreed (barring all
superstitions) that we would rather be prepared for the news -
particularly if it were to be bad.
Our outcome day was 8th August. The day before I was out walking
and suddenly had a wave of nausea. I was intending to buy a test
anyway and I returned home and decided to do it. I felt a bit
guilty that my husband was not home, especially when it was
POSITIVE! I couldn’t contain myself. I had to call him and tell him
that we were expecting a baby. We were both so happy we couldn’t
quite believe it. I did five pregnancy tests in total – just to be
sure. All the staff at our clinic were thrilled for us and we can
never thank them enough.
I had some early bleeding at about six weeks, accompanied with
pain. I was devastated, and we thought we had lost our baby. I was
scanned (as practice in IVF) at seven weeks and our scan showed two
embryo sacks, which probably explained the early nausea. One was
slightly smaller than the other and they were not sure that it
would continue. We were referred to the twins’ specialist at our
maternity hospital and I was told to have plenty of rest. At nine
weeks, I had more abdominal discomfort and was admitted to the
early pregnancy unit. Our scan now showed one developing healthy
baby and the remnants of the other embryo sack. We felt a little
sad, and I do sometimes wonder what this baby would have been like.
But the news was not unexpected and we were over the moon to see
our baby waving at us on the ultrasound scan – it was to be an
active one.
After an eventful pregnancy from sickness to symphysis pubis
dysfunction, we gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl in
April 2002. She is the most precious thing in the world to us, and
we are so grateful for every day that we spend with her.
We have recently had an unsuccessful attempt at IVF with ICSI in
July of this year and we are now awaiting the outcome of another
cycle. Our second cycle was very different and much more difficult
emotionally and physically than before. I believe that no treatment
cycle will ever be the same as another. On a positive note, my
family are now always aware of what is happening as I am more
comfortable discussing it, and they have been much more supportive,
particularly my mother an brother.
We desperately want to have another baby and a brother or sister
for our daughter, but if it is not to be, she will always be much,
much more than we had ever dreamed of, and we cherish her for
that.
(Sam recommends you visit the Cradle (Scotland)
site at www.assistedconception.org/cradle)
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