What is my partner feeling? How can I give support?
Tuning in to each other’s needs
Coping with your own response to issues of infertility – let alone your partner’s – is a challenge. For one thing, your reactions to fertility problems will be different. Women tend to confront problems head on. They seem naturally able to talk about their feelings, especially to other women. They want to know how men feel too, which isn’t always easy to express.
Men on the other hand, try to work out things themselves and try not to let a problem interfere with their daily routine.
None of this means either of you should change your behaviour. But being aware of these differences can help you avoid misunderstandings and approach your treatment as a team.
|If you feel your partner needs more support than you can give, suggest seeing a psychologist together. Don’t dismiss the value of professional advice or over-estimate your ability to deal with stress on your own. The important thing is to intervene before stress gets out of hand. The Fertility Compass will help you and your partner decide if you need to see a psychologist.|