How can I tell my partner we need to see a doctor?
Ensuring your partner is on board
Often times, a couple’s interest in starting a family is driven by the female partner. Her biological clock ticks more loudly and although infertility is rare, a woman will be alert to her body’s signals. She’ll follow her cycle and count the months as they go by. She’ll browse articles about infertility or speak with friends about their conception experience.
Men, on the other hand, may appear to be unaware that time is passing. They may need to be convinced that the time has come to seek medical advice. The idea that they may have contributed in some way to their conception difficulties may shake their self-esteem and their image of masculinity.
If there are conception issues to be faced, you need to address them as a couple. The only question is how. Men aren’t necessarily comfortable discussing intimate aspects of their relationship. The same is true of fertility issues. It’s understandable; many men equate fertility with virility, which is bound up with their self-image.